Hi. If you’ve reached this page, the story you’ve been telling yourself probably isn't working anymore. Most of us seek therapy when our brain’s predictions no longer help us navigate reality. Perhaps it’s that inner voice screaming that you "must function" even when your body refuses; perhaps it’s an automatic choice to please others or pick a fight, over and over again; or perhaps it’s the painful moment of a breakup—a process that, even when necessary, remains searing and heavy.

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I have spent years writing about these hidden mechanisms, and you can read about them here. In the clinic, we transform theory into a living encounter designed to help you live better with yourself.

Don't get me wrong - I’d love to fix you, and your partner too. But that technology doesn’t exist. What I offer instead is learning to live better with the "brokenness"; understanding that the cracks are not a malfunction, but the very place where movement begins.

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"And for that, do I need to talk about my parents?" The aversion to "digging into childhood" is understandable, but the truth is simple: our brain operates based on a database hardwired into us decades ago. When we encounter a difficulty, the brain asks, "What worked for me at age 10 with Mom and Dad?" and pulls out that same old solution, even if it no longer serves you. Therapy is not an opportunity to blame, but an opportunity to recalibrate the system so you can respond to the present out of choice, rather than on a survival-based autopilot.

In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we don’t just talk about things; we feel them. In this process, we learn to identify attacking voices and make a vital distinction between the Critical Voice - the one convincing you that you’re not good enough - and the Dreadful Voice, which claims that life is too big for you and you lack the tools to handle it. My role is to help you moderate these voices and move toward healthy emotional processing.

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Healthy emotional processing doesn’t mean you have to be happy; emotions aren't decorations - they are signals guiding us through reality. In the face of danger, we are meant to feel fear, which should only subside once we’ve found shelter. Accordingly, mental health means being able to feel the emotion that truly fits the situation, whether it compels us to feel sadness, anger, or fear. The ability to carry the correct emotion drives us toward precise action and pulls us out of traps or paralysis.

In Couples Therapy, we weave two individual journeys together. We identify the shared "dance" and discover how the critical or dreadful voice of one partner awakens exactly when the other is trying to defend themselves. You will learn that you get tangled most at the moments you are trying hardest to solve the problem. From that understanding, we begin practicing new dance steps.

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If you feel you are acting out of survival rather than vitality, or if you are facing a painful dissolution and need a place to lay down your swords - I invite you to contact me.